How many are you truly happy with?
I've recently read a few members, which seems to be mylots latest out cry. Those who don't post many responses won't receive them and if quality isn't in your discussion then it's down to luck. (either way I guess it does)
This has made me happy. (the out crys that members don't receive many)
As I'm here enjoy reading the responses I get, I always have been over the moon and I would be happy with what I get. Of course I can't say that below 4 would fill me happiness although 4 decent response does. (even less in cases)
What about you? are responses really important or this just a selfish area which only comes with a reputation here on mylot?
Thanks,
~Joey
[question posted by joey_matthews]
responses and comments:
i think the quality of response is far more important than the quantity.id rather get 5 good ones than 9 bad ones and i good one.i think that the way the post is written is more important.we decide on whether the post is worth having a look at with the first glance.there are people on here who boast of their high numbers(thats a quote)who are just here for an ego trip.say any thing to please the reader.good on them,thats what i say,hope it makes them feel good. [jimbo45]
i would say a quality response is content. it doesn't matter how long or how short or how well written...if it answers the discussion at hand completely and honestly then i would say it's a quality response. [syndibee]
I would enjoy seeing a few more "real" responses to some of my questions, or more people taking the time to expound on the answers they do give. I usually limit my questions to things I am truly needing answers to, or genuinely curious about others responses to. I guess I had never made the connection between the amount of responses I post vs the amount I receive but I guess it would tie in. I would also rather have 1 well thought out, great response, than 20 one liners with no thought or real care behind them. [skittles46]
I understand about well thought out response rather than one-liners, but sometimes the topic only warrants a one line response (I am not referring to any specific discussion in your case.) I have read some long responses which were down right repetitive, no real information, no thought or idea expressed and terrible writing. [bgerig]
i think responses are important mate as they help us all out if we have problems etc [lols189]
I've just started here, but from what I've seen, people respond to topics that strike a chord and not necessarily who is starting the discussion. Sometimes it is really surprising what people are tuned into. For instance I started a discussion, "do you get snow where you live?" and have had 15 responses. That was a real surprise. Then I started discussions like, "what would you put in a 100 year time capsule?" that I thought would be lots of fun and only one person responded. Go figure. [ironstruck]
Yeah..wow. The snow one ..well you'd think that would be "yes" or "no"...and the time capsule one I would've thought would get heaps of suggestions. I'm really surprised by that. Sorry, not exactly a quality response but it IS honest...lol [MsTickle]
I myself would prefer getting one response even if it were just one line, it beats 0 responses, though I really love getting a nice quality response, something I feel good to read as although I might not reply to all my posts I do read and rate them, usually always a plus if it is within context. And it's always so nice to read something with some quality in it rather then a simple quick and vague response, not that I am against it I know sometimes that is all one has to say and I will still like to read it as a response is always a good thing. It's nice to know someone read your stuff and especially nice when they fill you in with details on certain aspects that were asked even when they go a bit off topic sometimes is great depending on how they went off topic as I also don't want to ask someone what color their socks are and they say yes or no or a "huh" kind of reply when you ask them the color of their socks and they say square. The bad English responses also give me a headache sometimes, sure we all make mistakes but sometimes there's an entire phrase with hardly anything you can interpret from it, it is like trying to put together a 500 piece puzzle of a dark room that is practically all black, though sometimes after deciphering the code they actually had a very good response. Well I am going to cut things here before I rant of topic and go on and on on this and that lol (: But to me the more the merrier be it responses or quality. [SKLC_PT]
I don't know...I'm still learning this myLot game. I'm not experienced like you are. However, I do get excited when I receive multiple responses, private messages, and a notice that I've received a response to a discussion I started a few days ago...in other words not one of the current ones. [bgerig]
Hmm, well for me i rather have a decent and quality response than a poor response. I stress quality more than quantity, but what if your post of discussion do not have many response on it or maybe none response on it? doesnt that quantity comes first than the quality? lol like mine, i am not good in making a good discussion causing a big problem to myself. none replied my discussion.... [samseiko]
I like getting responses. I dont fret if I dont get any. I love mylot because you meet so many nice people, like yourself. I like to blow off steam and get advice. some people just cant be happy. Go figure [bicklelady]
To me, responses are really important. It helps me to understand and learn more about people, their thinking, their lives. Any discussion I pose would have a purpose, and is not posted just for the sake of posting. Same for responses I give. It is all about sharing :) [whyaskq]
For me even just a couple of response to my discussion is good enough for me. I don't need to get so many response. Like my latest and last discussion, I think I have about 4 or 6 response to it and I'm satisfy with it. Like Jimbo45 said, better to get 5 good response then 9 or more bad ones. [omega007]
For me I would much rather have quality than quantity. I enjoy reading a good response, being able to reply and keep the discussion going. I am not sure how mylot figures the ratings of its members and if it depends on the numbers of responses your discussions generate then I guess shooting for high numbers for some is important but I will stick with quality. :) [TheOriginalRed1]
I honestly do not mind if I was able to contribute a good discussion or not. One thing that really confused was that when I thought a particular discussion I posted was a good one, it got about 4-6 responses only. When I posted something that ridiculously came from somewhere, it began to generate a huge responses. I hope I can say that I don't mind about my rating. But as I've been with mylot for nearly a month now, I realized the importance of this rating. I always gave my most honest opinion and never exchange rude words with anybody. So I think I deserve to have a good reputation. But still, it is your prerogative whom you choose to give a + or - ratings. [charms88]
You won't catch me complaining about responses, or lack thereof. If my discussion gets one response, which then will mean I can choose a "best" response and resolve it, at some point, then I am content. I have had some get several pages,and if you cannot be right there reading the responses, it is easy to get overwhelmed. I like to be able to read, rate, and respond to my responses. [GardenGerty]
Everyone has different reactions to things..and you are a good soul:) [littlefranciscan]
I've had no problems with the responses I've received so far, on my discussions. I haven't been hit by the people you're referring to, and if I am, I'll just ignore them. [danishcanadian]
I cant control how many responses I get, so why should I waste m energy getting upset about it? The only control I have is to post GOOD topics that offer a good discussion. I try not to get upset over things I can't control. [cassidy22]
Well as long as I get a few responses Im happy, although If I do get many Im walking on air for the rest of the day. Sometimes it can be a bit disappointing though when I start a discussion I thought was really good and then just get 3-4 responses. Anyway I think I should just be happy that atleast someone bothered to respond and I shoudnt expect too many reaponses, that way Ill be happy with whatever I get. [hellsangelus]
Also when I first started i used to respond to all my friends discussions until I realized that some of them never even bothered to respond to even one of my discussions. Im a little bit wiser now and respond faithfully to the discussions of my faithful friends. [hellsangelus]
Well it depends truly. If I am looking for a GOOD discussion. I'd say I'd like as many as possible. Dont we all? But sometimes I JUST want an answer, even its only 1 answer I'd be happy if it answered my question. Most of the time I want a lot of answers though so yeah I'd be happy with say maybe 10? :)) [monkeywriter]
ofcourse responses are important to me it is very important to me to respond and try to help others with my response and it is also very important to me that people will respond to my posts because of one thing i only post when i or someone dear to me needs an advice, help and yes it makes me unhappy when i do not have a amount of responses that helps me you know somtimes one or two responses are enough it heps..but somtimes no one responses and it puts me in a state that i feel that people here don#t really care and somtimes i get responses of one line and it seems that that person just had to feel his responses @@for the day@ in my lot.. so oey it all depends:) [liranlgo]
i am really flattered when people notice my discussion and respond to them. i appreciate every response i get especially if it's truly containing really helpful details. i am not like others who just post discussions and never even care to go back and read the responses. i always try to read them all and comment on some. i get a wonderful feeling when people respond or comment. for me, responses are really important. that's the reason why i started a discussion in the first place. [maryannemax]
When I open a serious discussion, and asking for help from other members here, I read all the responses that I get. A lot of them put on smile on my face, and it's just shows you how people can be kind and helpful. I got a lot of advices, and consider them all, but eventually I did what looks for me the right thing. [ILANEDRI]
Im honestly happy if i only get one response. I think the higher the calibre of your discussions the lower the number of responses you will get, generally speaking anyway. I feel very much that the majority of users on mylot are after just making cents and therefore will only respond to discussions that take little thought. Well, I would rather have a few well thought out responses than a hundred of a few words blessed be [ESKARENA1]
I have been more than happy with the responses I have received to my discussions, a lot of thought goes into them and more often or not I put out discussions for advice and in return I get sound advice especially from my friends and people who take the time and effort to think out a response I always appreciate. Occasionally I do get a few that still leave one word answers but it's their loss not mine. It's very rare now that I get NO responses to a discussion, compared to when I first started on Mylot where most of my discussions were 'ignored' but I perservered and yes I like to think I've built up a reputation here on Mylot. It's a fine balance between give and take. [wolfie34]
It is always very nice to receive many good responses or even just a few good responses. It is not that important to me if I get a lot or just a few since I know that my topics may not interest everyone or they are not familiar with the topic. I think everyone has topics that either get a lot of replies or just a few. I spend more time responding to topics created by my friends and the new people but only if I can give a good answer to the topic. I definitely appreciate the responses that I get. [kgwat70]
Well, I guess if I am honest, I like to see a fair few replies to any of my discussions. If I don't have many, I start to feel like a bit of a failure, and that it is my fault for not wording the question well enough! I enjoy reading through all my replies, rating, and choosing a best response - it is part of the fun of MyLot I think. [rosie_123]
I think that quality is alot more important, however getting alot of THEM are nice as well. Sometimes I do think that a person might as well not answered since it was just plain garbage.. [Marie2473]
I like to get at least some responses - the more responses the more chance I'll get some great ideas and suggestions that I can use or think about. Also, I have found some new people that have responded that I've added to my friends list - like you! Really though, I like at least one response just to feel my thought or question is not wandering around in cyberspace all by itself. I do prefer responses that are thoughtful or funny or show a bit of personality - not just a one or two word response. [ShadyGrove]
Sure when I post a discussion- I'd like it to get numerous responses.. But thats only because I have a genuine interest in the discussion-- Hence thats why I posted it. I try to respond to the responders.. I like to carry on a discussion.. But I'm not one to complain-- If not alot of people respond to one of my discussions I dont pout.. I would rather have a few great quality responses- rather than numerous non-quality ones. I don't post nearly as many discussions as I respond to. I find responding to other users discussions is more fun to me. [KrisNY]
I read responses that I get because most of them are very important to me. I've asked some questions that I really am looking for answer to so why would I not read them? [mistymornster]
I think that the QUALITY of responses is more important than the number of responses. I would much rather have 2 or 3 good responses to my discussions, than to have a bunch of the exact same thing, or just many one sentence answers to them. This is just personal preference, though. [mehale]
Hello, I have only joined recently and only seem to get one or two responses to each posting I do? I dont know if friends of friends on here reply to each other to help each other get more responses or what? [Ladywriter1968]
I also enjoy reading and responding to the few response i get when i post a topic here but I dont usually get enough response like I desired. I guess I have to improve my topics so it would be interesting to all. Aint selfish, here to learn about peeps way of life [docsammy]
I'm currently happy with My lot, yes responses are really important to me because I use to enjoy here at my lot chatting with friends discussing about various topics moreover it give me a boost in confidence [salmanshr03]
I'd rather have a few really good and insightful responses than a bunch of crappy ones that people are giving just to get their numbers to go up. [dfinster]
For me if I start a discussion that I get several responses to, that does help me feel better because I know that I started one that people are actually going to read, and want to respond to. But then again on the flip side of that coin, I get a lot of responses 1) makes it harder to respond back to them all, and 2) makes it harder to choose best response So as long as I get a few like, 10 to 20 I am good with that. How you feeling Joey? [thowell]
I am just a new member about a month ago and i quite have done some few discussions.I always get excited to read thier opinions and views.Sometimes i spent hours and hours reading other member's discussions and responses w/c also gives me the idea of thier personality.Same feelings like you do if i get 2 or 3 responses and i don't get more than that i am already happy at least someone spare time on responding.One good thing also i appreciate was someone still anwering my discussions even though it was 3 weeks ago now.Quality make sense..Thanks friend!! [gigisexy]
I'm always pretty happy,although I've got my days.But I respond to things that intrest me,if I get a response back,great,if not,no big deal.I believe that like attracts like.....so,does that answer your question?I'm happy with 1. [summerbuddy]
Hi joey , I myself like when I get a response that lets me know that they took the time to read what I wrote and give me their honest opinion about it ... [loveable26]
I think responces are very important...aren't discussions the point to this site? I make sure to do my best and respond to people who respond to me and spend the majority of my time (time being the key word) responding to others discussions. [celestial_fantasia]
I am very new here, and still learning my way around. I have discussions with zero comments. No, I'm not real happy about that. I will say, that I would prefer a quality response to a lot of responses. [Trinka26]
I would not claim that a vast number of responses is very important, but it is good to get a decent response. A fairly productive discussion has the effect of making me feel that the effort of posting it was very worthwhile, so it does constitute a nice compliment if several people respond with good valid points. [Asylum]
I am not following you Joey, what do you mean, those who don't post many responses, what is considered many? won't receive them? What do you mean, they won't show up on your discussions that you posted yourself, or you get as notifications in emails, because that is what is happening to me. [winterose]
Hi Carol, I'm talking about members who post that they're unhappy with the amount of responses they receive. Either because they don't post at all (or much) or those who don't really post meaningful discussions. Like "the moon... Is it really made out of cheese" and then posting a discussion saying. "I'm fed up with this place. My discussion regarding the moon only got to responses) =) With a bit of work and quality discussion and luck. Those who want over 100 should be able to get that number, for me I just sit back and watch what responses I get and remain happy. (I have been meaning to reply to responses) Kudos, ~Joey [joey_matthews]
I think all like to get responses to their own discussions, so am I. I feel very happy when I get lots and lots of responses, but I am satisfied if I get few responses also. I don't make my mood of why I am getting very few responses. I feel more happy and satisfied when I get not only big amount of responses but also the quality responses. I like to get few quality responses than to get lots of one liner responses. But all over main thing is getting more responses makes me happy:). [sweetlady10]
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In my case People will respond if it is to their Interest just like I do. Yes I am happy when People respond as I know then I have managed to put something Interesting. But if they do not respond then I am disappointed in myself as I know then that my Discussion is at fault and I did not do to well on there. But not for me, for the People that respond. [gabs8513]
I like getting "quality" responses. Even a one liner can be a good answer, if itīs witty "or" honest "or" original. Of course I like getting a lot of responses. I would be a hypocrite if I said I donīt. Lots of answers mean that a lot of people considered the discussion interesting enough to make the effort to reply. For me itīs not really to do with the reputation. Dana [dana234]
Well I'm responding to your discussion so you must be happy haha!! I think some people on here take this a bit too seriously for my liking, if nobody responds to my posts I'll jus do another - as if that would stop me! It's better to get some quality responses than just a few words. Though I must admit that of late I haven't made any posts cos I've been to busy with 'real life' and have just responded to others' posts for a change. Keep on posting my friend. [ginagee]
I am happy with a couple of pages. I have had a few discussion starters that took off in a hurry and it was complicated to reply to all of the comments. I don't mind the comments but it can be hard trying to reply to them all. [rosaflorence]
Any quality response is a good response, especially when you consider the number of discussions which receive no responses at all. I would rather get 1 response of quality than 50 of one liners or garbage content. So far I have been relatively lucky I believe, because every one of my discussions has received more than the one response and there has always been one which has been good enough for me to award a best response. At the same time I do have to say that I haven't started many discussions at all, not considering the amount of time I have been a member that is. From memory the best discussion with regard to the number of responses was one about email addresses and that received over 700 responses, another one was internet and that received over 450 responses. Then I started a couple of others thatI thought would fly, and they got less than 20 responses each. It is hard to know what people will respond to but in general I mostly respond to the discussions started by my friends here, and if I have any extra time after that, then I will check out responses with no replies. I think the fact that I do respond to discussions started by my friends is the reason why I generally get responses to all of my discussions. I respond to their discussions, even bringing forward one discussions too, and so they respond to mine too. Also those on my list of friends, and anyone else who checks my record in fact, will see that I give out positive ratings where appropriate and also award a best response for every discussion that I start. Good luck in future Joey and I do hope that you get good responses to all of your discussions, the new ones as well as the old ones that you started a long time ago. :) [ossie16d]